Approaching Women

Women are definitely a different breed than men, and because of these differences you will find that the way men approach women and dating are very different than the way a woman would approach dating. This is why it is important to understand the way a woman thinks before you approach her if you want to maximize your success rate with getting close to her.

It is said that a first impression is made within the first minute or so of meeting someone. This impression is usually what will stick with a woman when she recalls you. This being said, I am sure you can understand why it is so important to make a great first impression if you want to have any hope of dating the woman later on.

First and foremost you need to always look your best. Sure you may just be going out with the boys for some football and beers, but you never know who will be serving you, sitting next to you, or whose girlfriend's friend might show up. So, even on those nights when you really don't feel like putting much effort into yourself, tough, make yourself look presentable before you go out.

Also with first impressions come first looks. When a woman walks into a bar she does a quick scan of the people there. Most of the time she is looking for friends she is meeting up with, but this scan also serves as a way for her to pinpoint losers and creepy guys so that she can avoid them during the night. As a general rule, you should try to be as un-creepy as possible. Just because the woman wiping down the bar table across from you can't see you staring at her butt, the cute blond across the bar, can. So, be a gentleman even when you think no one is looking.

Do not sit at the bar all alone and drown in your jack and coke. Going out for a few drinks should be a fun and social occasion so make sure you are having fun. A woman who sees you will see you having fun, and her impression of you, even before you ever approach her, will be more favorable. Do not drink until you are stammering and stupidly drunk and then walk up to a woman and ask her if she would like a drink. Women want a prince charming, not a booze-hound.

Also, before you ever approach a woman take some mental notes about her features, what she is drinking, and the type of people she is with. If it looks like the people she is having drinks with are business associates or clients, you can discreetly ask her for her number later, when she is not tying to stay employed. When you take notice of her features and you can be specific when you compliment her, then she will surely take note of your keen eye. When you notice what she is drinking you can avoid an embarrassing situation, like ordering her a drink when she is a recovering alcoholic. If the woman is drinking a soda offer to buy her another soda, if she is drinking a cosmopolitan then offer her that. Also, if she is with another girlfriend, offer to buy the friend a drink as well. This shows her that you are thoughtful and don't want her friend to be left out. Do not assume that since you like dirty martinis, that she will too, and buy her one.

Once you have gotten this far, you can finally walk up to her and talk to her. Just do not walk up to her with your tail between your legs as though she just beat you for peeing on the carpet. Walk up to her with confidence. You are the man and if you approach her with that attitude you will get a much more positive response. Remember, as a woman she is hit on constantly, and so for you to even stand a fighting chance, you have to stand out as an individual. Be cleaver and witty, but do not be overly arrogant or cheesy. When asking for her phone number do not act as though you are entitled to it, nor should you act like you only kinda sorta maybe want it. And if she tells you no, or rejects your drink offer, thus rejecting you, do not be discouraged, and don't let her or any one else know that you were upset by this rejection. Take it as it comes and move on; do not let it make you feel desperate because you may not be going home with anyone that night. The last thing that you want is to appear desperate to a woman. You want to let her know that you are the man for her and that you don't need her to be happy. Exude that kind of confidence when approaching women and you will do wonders.